“People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”
- John C. Maxwell

The most important thing for parents at home, administrators in offices, and teachers in the classroom is our relationships with our children or students. Otherwise, students are left at the end of the day feeling that we want them to know what we know but don’t care how they feel.

Our Troubled Teenagers want to know one thing.
They want to know that we care!

How to show we care:

• Caring, Significance, Security
• Voice Tones
• Body Language
• Giving genuine compliments
• Overlooking some types of behavior
• Earning respect
• Identifying the underlying cause of negative behaviors (symptoms)
• Empathy

The Problem

“Boys in Crisis,” that is the sub title of a book titled, “Hear Our Cry,” by Paul D. Slocumb, Ed.D. On page 61 of this book Paul Slocumb states,

“Behaviors are symptoms; they are not causes. Schools punish the symptoms rather than get at the cause. Certainly some symptoms have to be controlled; however, to punish symptoms and do nothing else is to almost guarantee that a behavior will return at a later date.”

Our young people, male and female are in a crisis state; mostly because they have emotions and feelings that they do not know how to express.

Our teachers need tools to assist students in changing behaviors and attitudes they need to live in a more positive environment in their communities.

“Punishments and rewards loose value over time. Relationships gain value over time.” – Pat Quinn, Motivating Unmotivated Students.
We need to stop using aspirin to cure the cancer that is consuming our youth. I am on a mission to help cure the cancer of undesirable behaviors and attitudes that is spiraling out of control in our schools and communities.

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